Divorce and kids around the holidays… Ugh…

The Holidays are hard enough for those of us that aren’t divorced.  Figuring out which relatives you are going to see when, packing the car, getting the dogs to the kennel, coordinating the cat sitter, driving across the country to visit family…. and the list goes on and on.  And I’m not divorced.  It’s enough … Read more

Why Collaborative Divorce Works

One of my biggest pet-peeves is when another lawyer tells me that Collaborative Divorce won’t work. Don’t tell that to Cat J. Zavis.  Cat presented a seminar that I attended this past week on how Non-Violent Communication can help resolve Family Law Cases, including Collaborative Divorces. The seminar was organized by Mark Springfield, a fellow … Read more

Collaborative Divorce is great for the kids

I came across a great article today that illustrates just why collaborative divorce can be such a great thing for the children of divorce. The article profiles a family from Rochester, New York that is going through a collaborative divorce with children – successfully. On anther note – I was forced to go to court … Read more

What is the true “cost” of divorce in Cary?

I came across a podcast today by a divorce lawyer in Boston, Massachusetts who discussed the “cost” of getting divorced.  Here are some of the questions he was asked, with my answers. You hear in the news about couples staying together simply because the cost of divorce is too high. What makes getting a divorce … Read more

Divorce during the Holidays – What to do?

As we come upon the end of summer and the Labor Day weekend, it is important to make sure that you stay calm and collected during the weekend’s festivities.  Whether you are just thinking about the idea of separating from your spouse, your divorce is in its final stages, or you are somewhere in between … Read more

Can Virtual Visitation replace actual visitation?

It seems that the idea of “virtual visitation” (i.e. using video-conferencing services such as skype, ichat, etc.) has become all the rage in recent months, especially after a court in New York ordered three skype visits per week between a father and his children that were being moved to Florida.  Baker v. Baker (New York … Read more

Amnesty for Child Support?

Tomorrow in Asheville, North Carolina, the child support enforcement office is holding an amnesty day for those individuals who have outstanding warrants for their arrest for non-payment of child support, the Asheville Citizen-Times reports. People who have outstanding warrants are encouraged to come to the child support office to make payments without fear of being … Read more

But I don’t want to be a Daddy…

Apparently, there is a movement going on to push forward legislation that would allow men who tell their girlfriends, ahead of time, that they don’t want to be a Daddy to “financially abort” themselves from any responsibility for the child if the girlfriend gets pregnant.  At first I didn’t really believe the title of the … Read more